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Surviving The Holiday’s After A Loss

If you’ve lost a loved one, then you are aware of the emotional turmoil the holidays may bring. For me, the holidays bring on many struggles. Which is why I am writing this post – I know there is someone out there who can relate.

On December 27, 2014, I lost my whole world – my mother, my queen! 

The other half of my heart left this world within a blink of an eye and that is when my world STOPPED.

Every time December arrives I have to prepare myself for the uncontrollable emotions that await. See, the holidays are supposed to be joyful, no doubt about that. However, for some of us, its heartbreaking and it brings back many buried memories of the ones we’ve loved and lost. It’s a hard pill to swallow and it’s even harder trying to keep our spirits lifted in such a time of despair.

It doesn’t matter how much time has passed, whether it has been a week, a month or years – the pain remains and around this time it’ll always be hard. Everyone likes to say that time heals all wounds, but that isn’t exactly true – some wounds may never heal. And, although those wounds may not heal, we WILL survive.

The 3rd anniversary of my mother’s departure is upon us and the pain is crippling, however, I WILL survive this holiday season and so will you. And by survive, I don’t mean that you won’t have a breakdown or heck, even three breakdowns. I mean that despite it all, you’re still here. You are already surviving and you’re not going through it alone. I’ve had a few breakdowns already and we’re not even halfway through December.

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Despite all of the grief and emotions running wild, I am learning how to cope day-by-day and I am going to share with you a few things that have eased my heart just a little and I hope they will ease yours as well.

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Allow Yourself to Grieve //
You need to allow yourself to feel. Cry as much as you need to – you are entitled to grieve. At the end of the day, we are all human and loss isn’t something that we will ever get used to.

Talk About It //
As humans we tend to close ourselves off from the world, because the pain is unbearable. So, with that, it results in us isolating ourselves. From my experience, I’ve learned that talking through things that have caused you pain is very beneficial.

They Are Always Near & Dear //
Although your special person may have left this Earth, their soul still lingers and they will ALWAYS be in your heart. Even though the chair is empty at the table, their memories will live on within you and within your family.

Family //
Your family is grieving right along with you. My family helped me a lot and I couldn’t be more thankful. I had to learn that I wasn’t the ONLY one hurting. My family was hurting as well. Even though they may not have shown it, we shared the same grief. So I say this once again, even when you feel alone you’re not alone.

So, cherish each day and live with a grateful heart and remember YOU WILL SURVIVE!

6 Replies to “Surviving The Holiday’s After A Loss”

  1. Thank you for this. Holidays can be a loaded time for some, and it’s a bit wrong that our society insist it’s just happy-happy. And I think allowing people to grieve, and sometimes not being ok, is important; part of healing is dealing with the pain first. I especially loved your point that those that leave aren’t really gone; that’s very true.
    Hope you have a good Holiday despite everything, take care!

  2. Loss is difficult to deal with especially during times of the year when family is highlighted the most. This post can definitely touch some people who may need it most!

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