I got a call on December 27, 2014, from my eldest sister. She was informing me that I needed to hurry to my brothers home because my mother wasn’t doing too well. She had been sick for years, but the tone of my sister’s voice made my heart sink. I knew something was wrong, but as my spouse and I rushed to leave the house I shoved those thoughts to the back of my mind.
My brother lived an hour away, so we were going 70+ mph with the emergency lights on. We were eager to get there and while on the way I was praying that my worse fears were not about to come to life.
Most of the way there we were both silent. I honestly had nothing to say. There were moments when I began beating on the dashboard and pleading with God to take me instead if it was true that my mother had lost her battle.
Upon arrival, I was greeted outside by my siblings. My eldest brother came and gave me a hug with tears in his eyes and my youngest sister was sitting on the steps of the house and she couldn’t even utter a word from the unbearable pain of the loss.
I made my way to the back room and there she was. My mother was GONE!
I was 18 at the time, I had just graduated from school a few months prior and I couldn’t believe that this had happened to me and my family. My life was turned upside down in a blink of an eye.
See, even though loss is inevitable you can never be prepared for the pain and heartbreak that it will cause. You’ll have questions that will go unanswered, you’ll even have breakdowns at the most unexpected times. It is just something that you can never get used to.
From 18 to 21 I have lost a total of 5 people and here is what I’ve learned from it all.
1. Healing Takes Time //
When you lose a loved one it is easy to ask when will the pain go away. You are so eager to get back to your old self again, but you can’t seem to fill that empty void in your chest. Don’t rush it! Let yourself grieve, let yourself feel, and let yourself heal.
2. You Are Not Alone //
I have said this before and it holds so much truth. When something tragic happens we begin to isolate ourselves from any and everything because we feel alone — we feel as if no one can possibly know what we are going through. However, there are millions of people who are experiencing that same pain you feel and there are people who have overcome it. Just know that you’re not alone, no matter how alone you may feel.
3. Being Grateful & Cherishing the Moments //
When my mother passed away all my family and I had left were memories of her. See, that’s why it is important that we cherish each moment and be grateful for all things because it can be taken from us in a blink of an eye. Life is short — be grateful, love unconditionally, and live fully.
If you’ve ever lost a loved one, what was one thing that it has taught you?