I didn’t think it would be appropriate to write (or type) this, but I decided I wanted to be more transparent with my audience.
It has been a little while since I’ve written any personal development post, but don’t be alarmed! They’re not going anywhere! It’s just that lately I’ve been having trouble keeping myself afloat. What I mean by that is, I’m human just as you are and I have battles that haven’t yet been won!
Most of my personal development blog post is about things I’ve already overcome.. but this is one battle that I’m still fighting.The Journey of Healing Click To Tweet
And, so it begins…
I have endured a great amount of pain and heartbreak in my life. I have watched myself fall apart and hit rock bottom more times than I can count.
Life has been a ride, but I’m still here holding on for dear life.
I’m sure we all have endured pain and some of us are still trying to find ways to let that hurt go. And, eventually, we will. I believe in all of us!
But, here’s my story…
I believe my biggest problem has always been avoidance. I have always found ways to avoid my issues instead of taking the steps necessary to heal. Which brings me to writing this post.
As humans, our pain can become so unbearable that we can’t bring ourselves to come face to face with it. So, we find things that will relieve our pain, even if it’s only for a little while. For me, my outlet has always been alcohol — ever since I could remember I drowned my problems in a bottle.
Which is very unhealthy, to say the least.
And here’s what I’ve learned from that:
〰️ No matter how fast you run, you can NEVER outrun your pain.
〰️ No matter how many bottles you drink, your pain will be waiting by your bedside in the morning.
〰️ Nothing will change unless you do.Nothing will change unless you do! Click To Tweet
I lost myself, I fell apart, and then I hit rock bottom over and over again! I finally got tired of it. I decided to suck it up, stand tall, and go head to head with my pain. And, even though I’m not fully healed I will not stop until I am.
Here are a few things I’m working on to heal myself:
It’s so very important to forgive. We live in a time where it’s more common to hold grudges because its a struggle to forgive those who have hurt us. However, we have to remember that forgiveness isn’t for them — it’s for US! If we continue to hold on to the hate and resentment that we have towards those who have wronged us, we will only be punishing ourselves!If we continue to hold on to the hate and resentment that we have towards those who have wronged us, we will only be punishing ourselves! Click To Tweet
There’s a quote that says “You never know how strong you are until you have to forgive someone who wasn’t sorry, and accept an apology you never received.”
And, if that doesn’t speak volumes, I don’t know what does!
Now, forgiveness doesn’t just apply to those who’ve hurt you. It also applies to YOU! I’ve had to forgive myself for constantly neglecting my mental state and running from the very pain that was the cause of all this chaos! We can be very toxic to ourselves and not even know it.
Forgive yourself and others! You deserve to be free of those burdens.“You never know how strong you are until you have to forgive someone who wasn’t sorry, and accept an apology you never received.” Click To Tweet
2. Accepting What Is And Letting Go:
As I mentioned before, we are all trying to find ways to let go and heal. It starts with accepting what happened. There are trauma’s that we wish we could forget and/or heartbreaks we wish we could let go of. And, it all starts with accepting what is and learning to let go.
Letting go is hard, I know! You’ll always remember that pain, but eventually, it will begin to hurt a little less — it will become easier to deal with.
See, when we can come face to face with our pain it becomes easier to come to terms with it all. But, when we continue to run from our pain it becomes harder because it will continue to resurface until we let it go!
3. Pain = Strength + Growth:
This might sound strange, but I am grateful for all that I have gone through. I say that because I am constantly becoming stronger, I’m learning new ways to heal, I’m finding new truths within myself and I’m able to teach others how to overcome their pain as well.
There is so much growth in pain.
Like I always say — you have to grow through what you go through.
You’re never alone even when you feel as though you are!
Comment below — Are you on a journey of healing as well? Also, share this post and let’s heal together!
Cheers to the journey of healing.